The idea sounds simple enough — you’re single and not looking for a relationship or commitment. You’d like to be physically intimate with someone, but you’re not interested in strangers and one-night stands.You have a friend with whom you’ve always shared a mutual attraction. Why not become “friends with benefits” (FWB) Isn’t this the best way to satisfy both of your needs without having to deal with the “messier” parts of relationships?In most cases “Not really”. Friends with benefits arrangements aren’t as gratifying and easy as they seem to be. And while some people can maintain sexual relationships with their friends, just as many can not. In the long run, if both of you are not mature or communicate well with each other. The benefits of having a friend with benefits may not be very beneficial at all.
Being friends with benefits isn’t less stressfulA common reason cited for participating in FWB arrangements is that there is less of the stress that comes with a traditional relationship. No need to keep in constant contact, no need to pay any special attention outside of the bedroom, and no need to deal with emotions. Honestly if these are your reason than your shouldn’t be thinking about any type of relationship. A friend with Benefits is more just just a fuck buddy or a jumpoff. if that’s what you want then you need to be clear with your partner. Because “Friend” with “Benefits” implies a friendship of some sorts.
Studies on FWB relationships found that friends with benefits deal with the same issues that those in traditional relationships do – worries like one partner becoming more attached than the other or becoming jealous. Which are all normal human emotions and should always be considered with getting into a FWB relationship.
Most times the boundaries are not clear
In the ideal friends with benefits situation, both participants would be certain of what is to expect from the relationship. However, this is usually not the case. FWBs often jump into the arrangement without clearly defining the limits. This makes the situation more difficult later on. Unfortunately, even when the boundaries are clear in the beginning, they can become fuzzy. And this is why open communication should be a regular part of your understand with each other. In the beginning both partners may start out expecting the same things, but one partner begins to hope for more, or may wants to go back to being friends with no sexual contact. One partner may have secretly always a committed relationship with the other person. But settle on the friends with benefits arrangement in hopes that it would evolve into something more. They may take what they can get at the moment, then realize they can no longer be simply a bed buddy. In those cases your not to blame! They, themselves are wrong and immature for trying to use sex to seduce you into a relationships
Communication breaks down
Just like people in committed relationships, friends with benefits can have the same communication breakdowns. Where two people were once friends,
now have a hard time expressing themselves. The previously mentioned study also found that people in FWB relationship only discuss the physical
side of their relationship. Again, If you want more than a “Friend”(in every sense of the word) with Benefits” you need to be totally honest and upfront.
Only around 10 percent of FWB relationships evolve into long-term, committed relationships, according that research. Many end up breaking up
both the friendship and the sexual relationship. So make sure You’re really “Friends” before you start thinking about the Benefits!